Often the pain of neglect or rejection breaks our hearts. The care we receive may not be meeting our need and desire for an intimate bond. It may be familial, professional or social. Should we just suffer the pain of avoidance, and rejection or face it? To treat this pain, perhaps we cant expect others to change and care for us, or to ensure affection and warmth. We must first affirm our own inherent value and move from silent suffering into self-care and self-compassion. Let us begin with naming what we really go through instead of bearing an unnamed burden. Maybe we need to converse with them whether our feelings are reasonable and worthy of acknowledgment.
To root our worth deeply, let us give the care we long for. Welcome,
accept, and find the worth. Let us be compassionate to ourselves, and take
courage to speak out without placing blame on those who hurt. Tell “I feel hurt
when ... rather than pointing to other person's failure like “You never care ...”
Don’t expect that they will begin to care for us. We have found a new strength.
Ultimately, let us immerse our efforts of self-nurturing in Divine Care, where
we are perfectly and unconditionally cared for. In our body, in our burdens,
failings the divine life finds a dwelling place. Divine care is uniquely
offered through our own self-nurturing before it comes through any human
relationship. Grace grants us the capacity to believe we are the Beloved, even
when human relations often disappoint. We transform the wound of neglect and
rejection into the holy meeting place of self-compassion and limitless divine
love, receiving a permanent source of consolation and comfort.
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